Hello Beautiful Blossoms,
I don’t know if what I’m about to say is going to resonate with you or not, but I hope so, because I believe it 100% through and through from my heart to my bones and back!
The only relationship in your life and this whole wide world you have complete control over is the relationship you have with yourself.
You can choose to love yourself. And like yourself. Or not. But I hope you do. I know this isn’t always an easy thing. Especially when you’re down and going through rough times. But if ever there was a time when you needed yourself more, I don’t know when that is.
Find something. Anything that you like about yourself and focus on it. Grow it until it glows inside of you. Until it’s something you love about yourself!
And if you can’t even think of one thing, then think of something that you’ve always seen in others, something that you like and want to be. And find a way to be it. Grow it. Live it. And you will have something you love about you!
It’s a great place to start!
And if you already have a list in your head of all the things you like and love about yourself – wonderful! Write it down! Remind yourself often! Trust me, the reaffirmation is a GOOD THING!!!
I know so many people who can say that they are their own worst enemy, or their harshest critic. I used to be one of them. Why do we do this to ourselves. To make ourselves better? To challenge ourselves? To force ourselves to reach higher limits?
I stopped treating myself this way, because it’s such a negative way to try to accomplish growth. And I’ve learned, negativity in gets negativity out. When we criticize ourselves to improve ourselves, the improvement comes with a shadow founded in something akin to self-loathing. How can that ever be loving growth for ourselves?
Taking care of ourselves requires a willingness to invest in who we are and who we want to become. Do we want to be happy? Do we want to be healthy? Will will care enough about ourselves to build happiness and healthiness into our lives? Will we respect ourselves with positive reinforcement, reaffirmation, and acknowledgement of our strengths and give ourselves patience for the things we need or want to work on?
Will we be brave enough to grow ourselves into the lovely people we want to be? Can we find kindness in our hearts to be kind to ourselves and give ourselves room to grow and learn and live, one moment, one day, one heartbeat at a time?
And when we get stuck, or have trouble, or fall, or even fail when trying on something new, or trying to grow ourselves and our lives stronger, will we see that we are human and perfection is impossible (and exhausting)? Will we respect ourselves, love ourselves, be kind to ourselves, and forgive ourselves, so we live and learn, and grow and move on to become brighter blossoms?
Will we set goals that we empower ourselves to reach by:
- thinking each goal through
- determining what steps we need to take to make each goal a reality
- and then activating an action plan to take the necessary steps to make each of these goals a reality?
Or will we set ourselves up for failure, by putting expectations on ourselves with no course of action to achieve them?
In the simple truth that is:
The only relationship in my life that I have complete control over is the relationship I have with me, we each have choices. And as undeniable facts go, there is simply no one in your life you will spend more time with than you. Everywhere you go, there you are.
Every waking moment. Every sleeping moment.
Every happy moment. Every sad or angry moment.
Every accomplishment and triumph. Every failure.
Wherever you are, whatever you do, the only person who will always be there with you, will be you.
Wouldn’t it, sweet wonderful blossom and dear love … wouldn’t it be wonderful, if for all of these moments you could share time with your best friend, biggest supporter and fan, the love of your life? Someone who makes you feel happy and good and loved. Someone who cares completely about you. Someone who would drop everything to be there for you.
Well, the good news is that you can. Because you can choose to be your own best friend!!!
Here’s a happy opportunity to have a self-caring chat with yourself. Take this quiet moment to acknowledge yourself. Share with yourself the goodness you see in yourself, or the goodness you want to grow in you. It can be a starting point. A moment of reaffirmation. Whatever you need it to be. All you have to do is click on the image below and print, and you can write to yourself your thoughts and words. It’s a moment just for you!
And honestly, here’s the thing:
YOU ARE WORTH INVESTING IN YOU!
All you have to do is choose you!
Choose to be your own best friend!
And if you missed last week’s post, “I am worthy of my love, kindness, and patience: starting the year off right!” please check it out. I share with you a self-care-check-in that only takes moments, but helps you make meaningful moments to change your life for the happier and healthier better!
Until next week …
Loving you so big and brightly!!! I’m sending you light and love to hug you the biggest!!!
May you spend your day hanging out with your best friend!
Love and Big Hugs,
More Happiness from Mary Kate
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